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Attachment Difficulties in Schools: A Practical Guide for SEND Teachers and Teaching Assistants

Wed, 08 Jul 2026 15:00:00 +0100

Starting a new placement can feel exciting, but it can also bring uncertainty, especially if you're supporting pupils with additional needs for the first time.

Whether you're working as a SEND supply teacher, teaching assistant, learning support assistant or behaviour support professional, understanding attachment difficulties can help you build positive relationships, respond confidently to challenging situations and make a meaningful difference from your very first day.

At Axcis Education, we place SEND professionals into schools across England and South Wales every day. This practical guide explains what attachment difficulties are, how they may present in the classroom, and how you can provide supportive, consistent care while following each school's policies and procedures.

What are attachment difficulties?

Attachment describes the emotional bond a child develops with their primary caregivers during their earliest years.

When children experience consistent, responsive care, they are more likely to develop secure attachments that help them feel safe, build healthy relationships and regulate their emotions.

Some children, however, experience early adversity such as neglect, trauma, abuse, bereavement or disrupted caregiving. These experiences can affect how they trust adults, manage emotions and respond to everyday situations.

You may also hear the term attachment disorder. While attachment difficulties are relatively common, diagnosed attachment disorders such as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) are rare and can only be diagnosed by appropriately qualified healthcare professionals.

As a SEND education professional, your role isn't to diagnose children. Your role is to understand that behaviour often communicates an unmet need and to respond with patience, consistency and professionalism.

Why does this matter for SEND supply staff?

One of the biggest concerns new SEND supply staff have is:

"What if I say or do the wrong thing?"

The good news is that you don't need to be an attachment specialist to make a positive difference.

Children experiencing attachment difficulties often benefit from adults who are:

Calm
Consistent
Patient
Predictable
Reliable

Even if you're only in a classroom for one day, your approach can help a child feel safer and more settled.

What might you notice in the classroom?

Every child is different, but pupils experiencing attachment difficulties may:

Find it difficult to trust unfamiliar adults.
Become anxious during transitions.
Need additional reassurance.
Appear withdrawn or unusually quiet.
React strongly to changes in routine.
Challenge boundaries or classroom expectations.
Become upset more quickly than other pupils.
Struggle to regulate their emotions.
Find friendships difficult.
Prefer to work alone or avoid asking for help.

It's important to remember that these behaviours may also be linked to autism, ADHD, anxiety, trauma or other SEND needs.

Avoid making assumptions. Instead, focus on understanding the individual child and following the guidance provided by the school.

Practical tips for your first day in a new classroom

Every school works differently, but these simple approaches can help you settle into any SEND environment.

Introduce yourself calmly

Children experiencing attachment difficulties may take longer to build trust.

There's no need to force conversation. A friendly smile, calm voice and consistent approach often speak louder than lots of words.

Follow the SENDCo/SENCO or Class Teacher's lead

Every classroom has established routines.

Ask questions such as:

Is there anything I should know about the pupils I'll be supporting today?
Are there any strategies that work particularly well?
Is there anything I should avoid?

Experienced teachers know their pupils well, and their guidance is invaluable.

Be consistent

Children often feel safer when adults are predictable.

Try to:

Follow classroom routines.
Use the same expectations as other staff.
Avoid changing agreed strategies.
Give clear, simple instructions.

Consistency builds confidence.

Stay calm during challenging moments

Some behaviours may feel personal, but they rarely are.

If a pupil becomes upset or dysregulated:

Keep your voice calm.
Give the child time where appropriate.
Follow the school's behaviour policy.
Ask for support if needed.
Avoid arguing or escalating the situation.

Remember that you're there to support, not to win a confrontation.

Build trust gradually

Relationships take time.

Rather than trying to become a child's favourite adult immediately, focus on being:

Friendly
Reliable
Respectful
Consistent

Small positive interactions throughout the day often have the greatest impact.

Things to avoid

If you're new to SEND, it's natural to want to fix every situation quickly.

Instead, try to avoid:

Taking behaviour personally.
Raising your voice unnecessarily.
Making promises you can't keep.
Publicly challenging or embarrassing pupils.
Introducing new behaviour strategies without speaking to school staff.
Assuming you know a child's background.

Your role is to support the school's existing approach rather than creating a new one.

When should you ask for help?

You should never feel that you need to manage everything alone.

If you're unsure about a pupil or situation:

Speak with the class teacher.
Ask the SENCO or another member of staff for guidance.
Follow safeguarding procedures if you have concerns.
Report significant incidents according to school policy.

Asking questions shows professionalism; it doesn't show weakness.

Looking after yourself too

Working in SEND can be incredibly rewarding, but it can also be emotionally demanding.

Remember to:

Reflect on your experiences.
Ask colleagues for advice.
Continue developing your SEND knowledge.
Make use of training opportunities available through Axcis.
Celebrate the small wins - they matter.

No one expects you to know everything on your first placement.

Every classroom experience helps you grow in confidence.

Continue developing your SEND knowledge with The Axcis Academy

Supporting pupils with attachment difficulties is a skill that develops with experience and ongoing learning.

As an Axcis candidate, you can access The Axcis Academy, which offers accredited CPD courses in partnership with The National College, giving you free access to an extensive library of CPD designed specifically for education professionals.

Whether you're new to SEND or looking to build on your existing experience, you'll find training covering topics such as:

Safeguarding and child protection
SEND awareness
Autism
ADHD
SEMH
Behaviour support
Trauma-informed practice
Mental health and wellbeing
Classroom management
Professional development

With more than 1,400 webinars and 180+ online courses available, it's an excellent way to build your confidence, strengthen your knowledge and prepare for future SEND placements.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need specialist training to support pupils with attachment difficulties?

No. While additional SEND training is always valuable, being calm, patient, consistent and willing to learn can make a real difference.

What if I don't know a child's background?

That's completely normal.

Many schools won't share detailed personal information unless it's relevant to your role. Focus on following the guidance provided by the class teacher, SENDCo/SENCO and responding professionally.

Should I tell a child how to behave?

Always follow the school's behaviour policy and the guidance of permanent staff. Consistency is important, particularly if you're working in a supply role.

Can supply staff make a difference?

Absolutely.

Although some placements last just a day, every positive interaction matters. Children benefit from adults who are respectful, patient and dependable, regardless of how long they're in the classroom.

Ready for your next SEND opportunity?

Working in SEND is about far more than delivering lessons or providing classroom support. It's about helping children feel safe enough to learn, grow and achieve their potential.

Whether you're taking your first step into SEND education or looking for your next placement, Axcis Education is here to support you every step of the way.

We work with SEND teachers, teaching assistants and education support staff across England and South Wales, helping them find rewarding opportunities in mainstream schools, specialist settings and alternative provisions.

If you're already registered with Axcis, explore our latest SEND vacancies to find your next opportunity.

If you're new to Axcis, complete our Candidate Enquiry Form and one of our consultants will be in touch to discuss your experience, career goals and current opportunities in your area.

Whether you're looking for day-to-day supply, long-term placements or permanent roles, we're here to help you build a rewarding career supporting children and young people with SEND.

Meet the Axcis Team - HR

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 09:03:05 Z

Behind the Scenes at Axcis: Meet Our HR and Training Director

At Axcis, we know that delivering high-quality SEND staffing support to schools starts behind the scenes. That’s why we’re pulling back the curtain with a new series that introduces some of the senior leaders shaping how we support our staff, consultants, and most importantly, your school.

Our clients often ask us how we maintain such a high level of consultancy quality and consistency. The answer? It starts with leadership, training, and HR processes that underpin every school placement we make, ensuring that the right people are supported to deliver the right outcomes for your setting.

In this Q&A, we speak with Sara Wills, our HR and Training Director, about her Axcis journey, the values driving her leadership, and the internal strategies that help us deliver on our promise to schools.

1. Tell us a little about your journey at Axcis – how did you get started, and what brought you into the world of SEND recruitment?

I had been in recruitment for 14 years before joining Axcis, so I was already familiar with the company through my work with schools. I joined in 2010 as a Senior Recruitment Consultant and immediately liked the way the consultants supported each other. It felt very different from what I was used to.

I quickly found myself learning new terminology and stepping into a world where what we do genuinely matters. The idea that a child could benefit from the right candidate placement really resonated with me. Visiting schools gave me a much better understanding of their needs and introduced me to tools like Makaton and PECS; things I’d never encountered before in recruitment.

On a personal note, I have friends who are parents of children with SEND, and I’ve seen their struggles. It’s so important that children with SEND are given the same opportunities as anyone else to succeed in life.

2. What does your role as HR and Training Director involve, and how does it help ensure schools receive high-quality service from Axcis?

My role covers two main areas: HR and training. On the HR side, I oversee internal staff processes, policies, and procedures. On the training side, I support both new and existing team members to help them thrive within those processes.

I’m deeply passionate about customer service, and I believe that if our consultants are well-trained and confident in their roles, they’re more capable of supporting the needs of our schools. Our training ensures that consultants really listen to their clients and work collaboratively with them to find effective, long-term solutions.

3. What do you believe makes Axcis different from other SEND recruitment agencies?

I’ve asked clients this question many times, and the feedback is almost always the same: Axcis stands out because of the quality of our candidates and the commitment of our internal staff to get it right.

Our consultants have a deep understanding of SEND and know exactly what to look for in potential staff. Every Axcis branch has ex-educational professionals on hand to provide insight, which strengthens our service even more. Many of our school partners have worked with us for years because they trust our values, our experience, and our commitment to delivering high-quality, specialist support.

4. How does Axcis support its consultants to ensure they give their best to schools, pupils, and candidates?

Axcis provides a robust training programme for both new and existing staff. This includes everything from understanding systems and policies to in-depth training on compliance and SEND.

We bring in internal and external trainers depending on the content, and we actively encourage the sharing of best practices across the company. In addition, our candidates have access to a wide range of CPD training opportunities to help support their own professional development.

5. Where do you see the biggest opportunities or challenges for SEND recruitment in 2026 and beyond?

The growing awareness of SEND both in schools and in wider society is hugely positive. I’ve seen a lot of changes since I started in recruitment, and while we’ve come a long way, there’s still more to do.

We need to stay focused on continuous improvement so that we can keep driving better outcomes for children and young people with SEND.

6. Tell us something that people might not know about you?

I love singing out loud even though I’m completely out of tune! But don’t worry, I only do it at home!

What to Expect From Axcis

We’ll be continuing this series in future newsletters and blogs, featuring more members of the Axcis senior leadership team. It’s all part of our commitment to transparency, integrity, and continuous improvement because we know that the right people behind the scenes make all the difference in the classroom.

Interested in working with Axcis?

Whether you’re a school or alternative provision in need of specialist staffing or an education professional looking for a new opportunity, we’d love to hear from you.

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Disclaimer:

The information contained in this blog is intended for general interest and background only. Any opinions expressed reflect the views of the contributor at the time of publishing and may not represent the views of Axcis Education Recruitment or its partner organisations. Please note that staff roles, locations and responsibilities may evolve over time.